Sometimes a slight bitterness leads toward the massive confrontation that embarked upon minor issues due to staunch behavior paving the way for egregious moves, the separation of two families. In the aftermath of that aggressive step, the dream of children for the peaceful cohabitation of parents would wipe out. Both sides adhere to their original position of conflict without considering the stake of children that is most important to build their future, pour the long-lasting adverse effects.
Marriage is the holiest bond to fasten two families, not only as a religious duty but also as a social requirement. In the recent overwhelming majority of the divorce cases, especially in the elite-class literate families are a matter of grave concern. One main reason may be the waning and a deteriorating level of tolerance between the duo of husband-wife with unwavering ego-boosting, the conflict with self-indulgence that breaks the chain of a fundamental unit of society.
Narrated Muharib: The Prophet PBUH said:
Allah did not make anything lawful more abominable to Him than divorce.
REFERENCE: (Sunan Abu Dawood 3: Chapter 168, Hadith 2177)
Not only socially also, religiously the separation is condemned in harsh words with severe impact because it is a matter not between the two persons but families. In the subcontinent, socio-cultural context after divorce readjustment of a woman in her routine life is the most challenging task that has taken her whole life with stigmatization. After the divorce, she will have to face economic challenges with psychological pain.
After the confrontation, the spectacle of a legal battle for maintenance and guardianship of children has a tremendous negative effect on the physical and mental health of children with considerable frustration. In the pathetic environment of courts, children standing with their mother or father in the witness box of the courtroom is no less than a bane. Mostly, after giving custody to one of the ex-partners the other has the meeting opportunity to meet his/her children two times a month for only two hours, which gives the sensation of eviscerating someone. Both sides suffer the consequences and feel that they had done something big with the point of no return and much more complexities.
In such a precarious situation, both sides arouse negative feelings against each other in the minds of children that devastate the social and educational life of them. If you once visit the guardian visitation room, the children look psycho and dismal with no concerns about toys and other food items, brought for them by parents. They do not need anything else than a unified and happy life of parents living peacefully, and we all know that is impossible.
Representatives from both sides must endeavor to cool down the matter, bring them close again, and always help them live happily. While living the family life, some certain issues disturb, but there is always a solution to every problem which is table talk, with compromise from both sides. Also, we must bring some changes to Family Law Ordinance 1961 with strict compliance with its provisions to make the dissolution of marriage more difficult while providing the opportunity for reunion and consensus because that is a requirement of the era.
The writer is a final year law student at Punjab University Law College, Lahore.
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